If you’re a young person in school do you feel that school is quite stressful? True it can be. Just getting to and from school can be stressful. But does the stress let up once you arrive at school? Hardly! You still get a couple of this kinds of stress:
What fellow students say:
Teachers want you to excel and get the best grades possible, and at times it makes you feel pressure to gain their approval.
Teachers push students to excel academically, especially if the student has some ability. The teachers pour on the pressure to succeed.
Even if you have worthwhile goals for your life, some teachers make you feel like dirt if you don’t pursue the academic goals that they think you should.
How are you affected by teacher-induced stress?
What fellow students say:
In high school, kids have more freedom and they’re more rebellious. If you don’t join them, they think you’re not cool.
On a daily basis, you face the temptation to become involved in drinking and sex. Sometimes it’s hard to resist the desire to join in.
Bottom line is you are pressured by peers to do things that you don’t want to do, and when you don’t, you are viewed and treated as odd, at time you even get bullied and that could be frustrating.
How are you affected by peer-induced stress?
Stress over how your classmates will react to your religious beliefs.
what your fellow students say
It’s hard telling your classmates about your religious beliefs because you’re not sure how they’ll view you afterward. You worry that they’ll think you’re odd.
In middle school and high school, kids are into drugs, sex, and alcohol. It’s really stressful because you don’t want kids making fun of you for being different because of your religion
How are you affected by issues involving your religious beliefs?
Other stress factors.
Check the one that affects you most—or write in the one that does.
Parents’ high expectations
Living up to your own high expectations
Bullies or sexual harassers
Five Steps Toward Less Stress
Coping with stress is like lifting weights—it will make you stronger, if done properly. Similarly, you can manage the stresses that you encounter and successfully accomplish the work you need to do without causing damage to yourself. How? Take the following steps:
- Identify the specific causes.You can’t solve your stress problems unless you first identify the most likely cause. So look back at the comments you wrote earlier. Which stress factor affects you the most?
- Do research. For example, if a heavy load of homework is stressing you out, research the suggestions found in the article “Questions Young People Ask”, you’ll find helpful advice in the articles of the book.
- Plan your response. If you’re stressed over how your classmates will react to learning about your religious beliefs, don’t wait until a crisis arises to think of what you’ll say or how you’ll react.
- Face your problems. Few problems will disappear if you ignore them. Instead, they usually become worse, thus increasing your stress. The longer you wait to face your problem, the harder it becomes.
- Ask for help. Even the strongest weight lifter has his limits. You do too. But you don’t have to carry the burden by yourself. Talk to your parents or other mature friend. Show them the answers that you wrote earlier in this article. Discuss with them how they might be able to help you cope with some of these pressures.