There are a number of steps to stress management, let’s walk through a number of them
What has caused you stress?
▪ Insecurity—financial or otherwise
▪ A demanding routine
▪ Interpersonal conflicts
▪ A traumatic experience
First step to solving any problem is determining the root cause. Here I have identified a few, your case may be different, but I hope this will be of help nonetheless.
How has stress affected you?
▪ Health disorders
▪ Emotional exhaustion
▪ Sleep problems
▪ Deteriorating relationships
Second you need to be sure your actually dealing with stress so take your time and find out what symptoms you feel.
WRONG WAYS OF HANDLING STRESS
To help them “cope” with chronic stress, some people turn to alcohol, drugs, or tobacco. Others begin abnormal eating patterns or sit passively in front of a TV or computer—habits that do not address the underlying problem but may, in fact, worsen it. How, then, can we learn to manage stress effectively?
Be realistic-Not one of us has total security for time and unexpected events can cause a bad turn is circumstances.
Here are a few practical suggestions
- Confide in a trusted family member or friend. Studies show that the support of loved ones consistently confers protection against stress-related disorders. Yes, “a true friend shows love at all times, and is a brother who is born for times of distress.”
- Do not continually focus on worst-case scenarios. Such thinking does little more than drain emotional reserves. And what you fear may not happen! For good reason, “Never be anxious about the next day, for the next day will have its own anxieties.”
- Tap into the power of prayer. If you believe in God which I do “Throw all your anxiety on [God], because he cares for you,” God shows his care by giving us inner peace and by assuring us that he “will never abandon” those who sincerely turn to him for comfort and support in times of need.
If you have a bible, you may want to read these places
A relentless routine of commuting, working, studying, or caring for children or elderly parents can keep stress levels high. Moreover, stopping some of these activities may be out of the question. What, then, can you do to cope?
- Try to give yourself some downtime, and get adequate rest. “Better is a handful of rest than two handfuls of hard work and chasing after the wind
- Set sound priorities, and adopt a modest lifestyle-find out and prioritize the more important things. Consider simplifying your life, perhaps by reducing expenses or time spent at work. Cut down on impulse spending and have a feasible budget, with that, you can cut down on work and devote more time for rest-since it takes high level of work to maintain an extravagant lifestyle. Note: do not trade the inner peace for any business opportunity.
- Ecclesiastes 4:6
- Philippians 1:10
Conflicts with others, especially in the workplace or in school, can be very stressful. If you experience such difficulties, you have a number of options that might help.
- When someone upsets you, try to stay calm. Do not add fuel to the fire. A mild answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger,
- Try to settle differences privately and respectfully, thus dignifying the other person.
- Try to gain insight into his or her feelings and viewpoint. Such insight slows down [our] anger because it puts us in the other person’s shoes. It can also help us to see ourselves through the other person’s eyes.
- Try to forgive. Forgiveness is not only beautiful. It is also good medicine. As reported in a 2001 study, “unforgiving thoughts” resulted in “significantly higher” blood pressure and heart rate, whereas a forgiving attitude reduced stress.
- Proverbs 15:1
- Colossians 3:13.
When tragedy strikes it may seem that there is no way out… at some point, we may even consider ending it all. But there is help.
- Find joy in giving help to others. The joy derived from acts of kindness can heal deep wounds. A 2008 study by British researchers. One way to develop “resilience in the face of stress,” they found, was to “give in some way . . . to others
- Seek help. Talk to your loved and trusted ones about your problem. There encouraging words can be a calm massage to your wounds. Isolation further worsens the problem, causing more depression and increases the tendency of suicide thought.
- Am optimistic view of the future is what you really need. For no one can convince you of a better future if you don’t first see such a possibility. Fact though is that hope in the face of real trouble may seem farfetched (if that is your case) the key is simple. Your hope must be based on something real. A clear believe about what the future really holds. We will see these as we continue in our walk though the life of THE SIMPLIST.